What can NLP do for You?
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| Emotional Well-Being | Life Mission and Values |
| Train Your Brain | Relationships and Socialising |
Emotional Well-Being
What's preventing well-being for you right now?
- Grief
- Phobia
- Overwhelming anger, sadness, fear or guilt
- Trauma
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Panic attacks
- Insomnia
If someone feels overcome with any kind of un-positive emotion such as sadness or anger, it's good for them to know that they don't have to live like that. They can choose to heal their emotions. In NLP Coaching, this is made possible by healing past events and restoring a person's emotions to how they want to feel.
It's easy to feel as if we have no option but to feel emotions, because they happen so quickly and seemingly out of our control. When a 'trigger' such as a particular sound or event sets off an emotion such as grief, it's a bit like going down a super highway at great speed. It happens before we can even think about it.
These automatic responses can be reset so we do have a choice about whether to feel an emotion or not. The super highway gets 'dismantled' so we can choose which path to go down. So, while in one moment someone may feel grief, in another moment they may feel nostalgia, light or a little sad.
When healing emotions, although they change, nothing is ever taken away. NLP processes always work towards creating wholeness. A traumatic memory won't be 'deleted', only the way the person thinks and feels about it will be changed.
I believe it is vital for us to be our own nurturers, our own 'best friend'. Often it is the opposite. I have not come across many clients who don't have a habit of being self critical and hard on themselves. For me, it was always about 'hassling' myself. To do better, achieve more and so on.
It is common to hear people say that they, or someone they know, has 'low self-esteem'. NLP tells us that this is not something they have, it is simply something they are doing. And that they can learn to do something different, such as care for themselves, look after their emotions, love themselves like they love their closest family and friends.
To some people this sounds a little too soft or flaky, and our culture in NZ often promotes the opposite kind of attitude. Often we are told to 'harden up' or to 'just get on with it'. The reality is that how we treat ourselves and 'talk' to ourselves can have a major impact on how happy (or not) we feel. And it doesn't only affect how we feel about ourselves. It also affects how we feel about others. When we expect a lot from people and don't tolerate their mistakes, it is often a reflection of the pressure we put on ourselves.
NLP allows us to change patterns of self criticism and negative self belief, and open up a world of appreciation and love for who we are. What a wonderful place to live our lives from. And are we not each the most deserving of all the love we have to give?
Phobias and trauma are able to be healed easily and effortlessly with NLP. The success of NLP techniques in this area has been proven around the world. Examples include British police officers involved in the Lockerbie plane bombing overcoming Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and psychiatrists in Bosnia and Kosovo treating survivors of the Bosnian war with immediate results.
It is possible to identify and change the strategies of anxiety and depression and heal the part of a person that feels that way. When anxiety or depression is experienced, the patterns are already running automatically at an unconscious level. So, in gentle ways, the 'instructions' in the mind can be changed to carry out different strategies and behaviours to create new ways of feeling.
